Family. The word conjures all sorts of images. Some of those images aren’t always good. Sometimes families are messy and hard. I imagine there have been times we have wondered how we landed in our messed-up family while it seems other families have it all together and love and support each other. They seem to be places where someone can grow and thrive and prosper. Then there is the other side. The dark side we don’t want to talk about. The family that is cold and abusive and destructive. Members of those families seek that nurturing they missed anywhere they can find it and it seems what they find is more of the same or worse. Deep down what all of us really want, and need, is unconditional love and acceptance,
I have worked in my present job as a secretary in a mental health clinic for over ten years. In that time, I have seen a lot of families come through our doors. Some families are more broken than others. Some leave a lot of damage in their wake and pass it on for generations. Broken people creating more broken people. Yet, some have learned to cope with their brokenness and begun to heal.
Psalm 68:6 says, “God places the lonely in families, he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy. But he makes the rebellious live in a sun-scorched land (New Living Translation)
Adam may have related well to the first part of this verse. As the first man in creation, he saw all the wonder and beauty of everything God had created. Alone. He named all the animals. Alone. He tended the garden. Alone. Adam had realized his loneliness as he named the animals and saw there was no helper for him. In all of creation, there was no one else like him. He was truly alone. It was during this time that God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” So, He created Eve.
We are social people. We need each other. I have seen and heard and been a part of the “debate” over introverts vs. extraverts. Some of us are geared to be around people and need to be around people. Then there are those of us who think the world is way to people-y. We need a high degree of space and can be on our on for long periods of time just fine, thank you very much. Yet even in that aloneness, there is a realization that “it is not good…to be alone.”
God gives us people we can relate to and talk to and be ourselves with. Sometimes this is our birth family. Sometimes it is our in-laws. Sometimes it is a really good group of friends. I think that when we spend too much time on our own, and I fall into that introvert group, we become prisoners to our mind and go to dark places. The family God gives us helps take away our prison and can fill us with joy and freedom and removes the loneliness.
I don’t know what your family looks like. It may be a place of joy. It may be a place of darkness. If it is a place of joy, I celebrate with you. You have found a special thing. Rejoice in the Lord’s provision. You are not alone. If it is a place of darkness. Let me tell you, you are not alone either. There is hope. God has a family for you also. Trust Him to bring you into that family. Get the help you need. If you are seeking and lost in your own prison, let God bring you into His Family. Trust Him today to be your Father and let Him adopt you as His child. There is no better family than His.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
National Child Abuse Hotline: 800-422-4453
National Suicide Hotline: 988
Angela
